I have a good job, loving family, I dance, I read, I write, I travel. But still I am not always happy. Why is this so that we have everything and still we are not happy. If someone ask me what I need to be happy, I do not have any answer.
When I finish reading a book I feel elated. When I take dip in a new river I feel happy. When I write a new article or a poem I feel exhilarated. Happiness is in small moments. It is not necessary that we should always be happy. In this era of social media to be happy always has become an obligation these days. It has become a job. We pressure ourselves to be happy, to be productive all the time.
Have you heard about Vipassana?
It is a ten days programme where you do nothing. You cannot read, you cannot talk to anyone, you are all by yourself for full ten days. Many people give up in two to three days only. I have heard about this programme from my friends who have stayed like this for ten days and the experience they have felt cannot be expressed in words. I realised that doing nothing is a form of meditation. Having no feeling is also a feeling.
It is ok to be sad, it is fine to have mood swings. That's what we humans are made of - emotions. Otherwise we are all robots. Don't pressure yourself to be happy all the time, don't pressure yourself to be productive all the time. It is fine to relax sometimes, to let flow your emotions whatever they may be.
When I finish reading a book I feel elated. When I take dip in a new river I feel happy. When I write a new article or a poem I feel exhilarated. Happiness is in small moments. It is not necessary that we should always be happy. In this era of social media to be happy always has become an obligation these days. It has become a job. We pressure ourselves to be happy, to be productive all the time.
Have you heard about Vipassana?
It is a ten days programme where you do nothing. You cannot read, you cannot talk to anyone, you are all by yourself for full ten days. Many people give up in two to three days only. I have heard about this programme from my friends who have stayed like this for ten days and the experience they have felt cannot be expressed in words. I realised that doing nothing is a form of meditation. Having no feeling is also a feeling.
It is ok to be sad, it is fine to have mood swings. That's what we humans are made of - emotions. Otherwise we are all robots. Don't pressure yourself to be happy all the time, don't pressure yourself to be productive all the time. It is fine to relax sometimes, to let flow your emotions whatever they may be.
Heee nice mam
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ReplyDeleteThank you :)
DeleteI have written it a few months back. After reading your beautiful blog, felt like sharing it:
ReplyDeleteHappiness is not a destination. Now you will say isn't happiness is what we strive for? Isn't our life a quest for delight? Yes, that's true. We seek happiness in life but it is not a destination where we could take refuge forever.
The problem is we consider that there is some illusionary utopian country with despair-impermeable borders. That in this country the rain is adequate, the sun shines just enough not to hurt your skin, rivers never flood neither dry out, flowers never wilt, the wind carries the fragrance of love, pleasure and delight, the sky never takes form of a hideous giant. That there is no sorrow, no heartbreaks. There is no place as such where everything is just perfect and as per your needs.
That's why I say, happiness is not a destination rather it dwells in the small stations as we march into the journey of our life. As we set onto this journey, if we let ourselves be blinded by this illusion of a happy country we will never be able to see these small stations of adequate delight. Despair is conspicuous. It can be seen easily but delight always reside in little things and that is why to find it we need to become a keen observer.
So, when you enter into this journey, dare not tell yourself that you are heading towards happiness. Tell yourself that I am heading to live my life and keep your eyes open but with that keep your heart open also because heart knows where the happiness lies. Heart knows where to find it.
Beautifully written. I totally loved reading it. Thank you for sharing.
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